How to ask
your folks

We know that people want to stay at home for as long as possible and that there are clear benefits associated with doing just that.

However, more and more families and friends are facing difficulties in how to support their older loved ones while ensuring they are safe and secure at home.

The support needed may start with:
• driving – to the shops or appointments
• helping at home – with laundry or personal care
• maintaining the garden – mowing the lawn or watering plants
• cleaning – vacuuming or dusting
• preparing meals – and doing the dishes

Later, the care they require may become more significant as mobility and cognitive skills decline.

Therefore, talking to your loved ones about the options available to help them stay at home and remain independent is crucial.

However, we know it’s easy to put off these conversations because we fear they may be difficult. For many older people, these conversations are often interpreted as a judgement on their ability to remain independent. They may feel worried that their independence might be taken away from them if they need some help.

So, this guide has been designed to help you have these discussions. It will provide you with information and practical tips about how to start the conversation, find out what your loved ones would like and together agree on the best way forward.

These conversations may be uncomfortable, but they are very important. The health and well-being of your loved ones will make them worthwhile and give you peace of mind.

Jo Lamble – Clinical Psychologist